It’s that time of the year again. We singles have made it through cuddling season and now into a new year, new us. We have the outlook and perspective that we are going to better ourselves, that we are going to be unstoppable, that no one or nothing is going to step into our lives to mess up this year. That is, until someone or something does. It’s different for everyone, but one thing that may be hitting you like a brick wall right now is your singleness. Matters that don’t help with the constant reminders of your being single is the one holiday that only people in relationships love, Valentine’s Day. The one day where everyone who has a significant other buys chocolate, flowers and diamonds. The one night where it is a national date night for couples. When my ex-boyfriend and I broke up and I spent my first in-my-face-you’re-so-single Valentine’s Day, it was hard. There was nothing my mama nor anyone close to me at that time could say or do to make it better since I had also just recently been through the death of my forever sister. I know I am not the only one who has been there nor am I the last one who will be there. So, today I am going to convince you that Valentine’s Day is not just a mushy holiday for people dating. Through different experiences in my life, I have learned to appreciate Valentine’s Day. This is the one day a year we set aside to tell people they are loved and cared about. You don’t have to be in a relationship to do that. Valentine’s Day is much more than just a boy showing up to your door with chocolate and flowers. It’s about telling your best friend you love her. It’s mailing your mama a homemade card in the mail since you have moved off. It’s Facetiming your siblings to laugh and have your heart restored. It’s ordering Marcos pizza and making a cookie log with your friends. It’s smiling at a stranger who passes you because you never know what they may be going through. It’s choosing not to fit the mold that people before us have set into place about what Valentine’s Day is or isn’t. You are the gatekeeper of your own heart and spirit. My prayer for you is that you be selective in what you allow in and out. It’s a day for love. To love yourself, to love the season God has placed you in—single or dating, to love your family and friends, to love the people who are sometimes hard to love. We don’t have to follow bandwagoners or try to fit social norms. This holiday can be whatever you want it to be. I have chosen to make Valentine’s Day a holiday that reminds me of the greatest of loves that changes everything. The love that pulls me in closer when I do feel lonely. The love that tells me I am wanted by the one and only King. The love that has been so good to me and cares for me endlessly. The love that knows no boundaries or limits. The most reckless and jealous of loves that’s what I want and what I choose. The most overwhelming of loves comes from our God. And whether you’re celebrating the holiday single or with the person I hope is your future husband, God has selected you for this season of life because He knows just what you need and when you need it. Rest and be overjoyed in the fact that He has set a time for everything. You are not celebrating Valentine’s Day alone. You, my dear sisters, are celebrating and have the greatest of loves.